Who should get a plus-one?
Married Couples –
All couples who are married should be invited together. You may not like a spouse or you may be closer to one person in the marriage, but you really need to invite both parties to the marriage. It is polite and a tradition to acknowledge the spouse for your wedding list even if you’ve never met them or you don’t care for them.
Engaged Couples, Living Together, Serious Relationship –
In general, engaged couples, couples living together or those who have been dating for over a year, should get plus-one invitations. Today, many couples live together for years before getting married or never get married at all, but it is proper to acknowledge their relationship on your guest list. However, you may need to use your judgement for teenagers who have boyfriends and/or girlfriends. It is not required to invite the girl or boyfriend as a plus-one, but you may have to base your decision on the seriousness of the relationship and your budget.
Wedding Party –
Everyone in your wedding party would appreciate a plus-one invitation. Most likely, you will know who is married or in a serious relationship to include as a plus-one. If you do not want to assume someone is single, just ask the members in your wedding party if they would like to bring a plus-one. Remember, your bridesmaids and groomsmen are your support throughout the wedding planning process and during the wedding. They are planning bachelor parties, helping you get dressed, ushering guests to their seats, and any other last minute things that need to get done. In addition, they have also spent money and time on planning the bachelorette parties, purchasing the bridesmaids dresses and grooms’ suits, not to mention lodging and air travel. This is one plus-one you should add to the guest list.
Single, Out Of Town & Important Guests –
If you have a childhood friend or college friend that will travel to your wedding, you may want to allow him or her a plus-one. This type of guest is someone you want to attend your wedding, but that may not feel comfortable coming alone. If you want to encourage them to come and support you, support them with a plus-one option.